Update to last post

Immediately after posting last post I got two IMs.

First is Mike. Mike is 32 years old. He is a DJ at a major radio station. He is not that good looking, but has good personality. He has never been married and has no kids.

I met him on Match.com in January. We hit it off big time on phone. We planned a date one Saturday. The Thursday before the planned date, we were talking on phone. A big blizzard was hitting the area. He invited me to come to his hottub. I resisted for a while then, against my better judgment went over his house. It started to snow. We went in hottub. We kissed but never did more. I ended up spending night on his couch. That night we made a bet regarding how much snow was expected. I lost and I owe him dinner.

The planned Saturday date NEVER happened. After that first night, which I THOUGHT went well, I did not hear from him for like 3 weeks. Since January he IM's me about once a month. Here is today's IM:

Mike DJ: hey
Niki Z: u always im me when im in bed
Mike DJ: oh sorry
Niki Z: how are u?
Mike DJ: good you?
Niki Z: good, n=been busy
Niki Z: bar exam behind me
Mike DJ: how did ya do
Niki Z: ill know oct 20
Niki Z: in va only 2 ways u can do
Mike DJ: hang on one sec
Niki Z: pass or fail
Niki Z: they dont tell u your score
Niki Z: ok
Mike DJ: sorry...getting ready to go out and DJ a party
Niki Z: ok, have fun
Niki Z: now that Bar is over, id like to get toigether
Mike DJ: ok...lets get in touch this week, plan danner!
Mike DJ: dinner
Niki Z: if you'd still like to?
Mike DJ: yepper
Niki Z: yes, dinner
Mike DJ: you owe me baby
Mike DJ: ha ha
Niki Z: im free every dayt this week
Mike DJ: Monday?
Niki Z: i hate to say this, but, quite honestly Im BROKE right now..i did not bill 5 weeks prior to Bar Exam so I got no paycheck..so we may have to hold off until after 15th
Niki Z: this is first time in my life i have no money.,..it sucks so bad..anyway...
Mike DJ: well...hot tub is still here
Niki Z: ill definetly hold my end of deal after 15th
Niki Z: but i cant deprive kids of food to go out on date..lol
Niki Z: we can meet for drinks monday though
Mike DJ: if ya want
Niki Z: sure
Niki Z: call me tomorrow, we'll talk logistics
Mike DJ: ok done
Niki Z: very cool, have fun tonight
Mike DJ: ok...talk to ya soon nik
Niki Z: bye mike

So, did I hear him correctly. He will only go out to dinner if I pay? Is that weird. Plus, our FIRST AND ONLY date was freaking 6 months ago...this is typical for me.

Second is Bob. Bob is a 46 year old small business owner. He distrubtes gourmet foods. He is very sucessful. He lives in the amazing house. If you ask me, his personality is perfect fot for me. He has never been married and has no kids. He is good looking but not gorgeous.

Bob and I met in January. When we first met I really thought we were going to be in relationship. He lives 90 miles away. The first date, he said he was going to take me out to dinner. We met at his place. He took me to damn hamburger joint like across street from his house. When we got back, we drank wine and listened to music. He said he was tired, that's why we did not go to nicer place. I spent the night, because he lives so far away. I slept on couch. We kissed but nothing more. I did not hear from him for two weeks. I ended up seeing him again in April. Second date very similar to first date. Same burger joint. I spent night, but this time we messesd around and I spent night in his bed. After this date, he's periodically IMed me once a month asking me to "come over." I say NO because this is unreal, how hard is it to get a man to COURT me a little?

Here is today's IM. Mind you, this is a very sophisticated and wealthy business man who is 46 years old:

Bob: hey
Niki Z: hey
Niki Z: still holding my jacket hostage? lol
Niki Z: joking
Niki Z: how are u?
Bob: what are you up to
Niki Z: been working
Bob: are you at home
Niki Z: took the bar exam 2 weeks ago
Niki Z: yes im home
Bob: still have a web cam
Bob: i just got one
Niki Z: yeah but my kids are here
Niki Z: i havent had it hooked up in long time
Bob: you should hook it up for later
Niki Z: maybe
Niki Z: so anything new with u?
Niki Z: dating anyone special?
Bob: nope
Bob: finished my first triathalon
Niki Z: great!
Niki Z: how did it go?
Bob: awesome
Niki Z: great!
Bob: top 50 out of 500
Niki Z: great!!!!!!
Niki Z: u still have my jacket, right/ i love that jacket
Bob: i do
Niki Z: cool
Bob: well i am about to get dressed i was going to give you a peak
Niki Z: well, kids are here..im not so into webcams anyway

DATING 911!!!!! Help!!