Christmas time: A time to re-evaluate and rebuild

Merry Christmas everyone!

My ex-husband and I, when we seperated, agreed that we would spend every Christmas together, for the sake of the kids. To all the nay-sayers, who, in the past years said it could not last "forever" I'm happy to prove you wrong. My ex not only invited me over for Christmas Eve dinner, but he is cooking the whole thing! Turkey and all! My gut instinct was to think "Why couldn't you do things like that while we were married?" That thought was fleeting, however. I refuse to get myself stuck in the negative thinking. Instead, I'm so happy he has become a better dad and happier person since seperation, and I'm ever happier we can create an environment for the kids whereby they are not deprived of BOTH of their parents on holidays.

It makes me very sad to see other divorcees who are not as mature as my ex and I, and who, because their marraige could not work out, their kids are deprived of a parental unit, but rather, are forced to accept two parents as distinct units.

I really hope people take this holiday season to reevaluate their own situations. Take this season to stop the bitterness-anger-revenge cycle. It only takes one person to break a cycle, and the benefits (in your kids' lives) will last forever.